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This first picture, made me think of my grandmother. She lives in Oklahoma and I do not get to see her that much. She told me that every day and night she puts her hands like a heart around the sun and the moon, just to let her son know that she is thinking of him and loves him although he is in heaven. It is little things like this that makes me think that my grandmother has a huge heart. I spoke to the family that lost both the grandmother and the father within a month and shared this with them. They have made a pact to always do this at the same time everyday so that the three of them would be sending love to both of the loved ones whom have passed a strong sense of love. With this being possibly my last blog, I wanted to share a little of my life with you. If you ever have any question or want to share any part of your life as well, please feel free to do so. Many times, someone else's way of coping could be an eye opener for others.

Thank You!!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

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for a list of your local funeral homes in Lewiston Idaho please go to this website for a list;
http://www.yellowpages.com/lewiston-id/funeral-homes

http://www.nextgenmemorials.com/ideas.html; this website as many great ideas to help  you with ideas on how to celebrate a life of a loved one that has passed.

http://www.squidoo.com/coping_celebration_of_life; this is another helpful website for you to follow, it gives you a ton of information that can help you with the celebrating of ones life.

http://elegantmemorials.com/celebration-of-life-service; this last website is amazing, and I do believe out of all three, is the largest.

Please take a view of each of these and tell me what you think about them. To many people it is hard for them to "celebrate" the death of a loved one, one tries to mourn more than celebrate. It just seems silly. Take a moment and think about how you would want your loved ones viewing you after you have gone? Would you have them cry every moment (which is needed at times) or have them smile while they celebrate the life you had?

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We all want to celebrate a part of our life. Some do this while we are still alive, some after we are no longer living and some do it both. In some cultures you are not to speak about the dead, in others you are to fully live the deceased life in full effect. In my family, we do a little of both. There are some people who do not want to ever speak of the deceased and there are those we always want to talk about their loved ones whom have gone to celebrate their life in a better place. I think that it really depends on the person, how the feel about death and how they are doing in their own life is how this challenge will be answered. I spoke with my grandmother the other day, she is 89, she told me that in order for her to remember her son, whom passed away in a tragic car accident over 15 years ago, she looks at his picture every day and says good morning to him. She tells me that some may find this strange but she likes to think that although he is gone to heaven, he will never be forgotten. If no one else wants to remember him, it was her son, and she will continue to speak to him everyday:)

What are some of the things that you do to celebrate life in your family?

Life Grows On

For many people a death is a very sad thing. For others it is a celebration of life. For me, I have had many loved ones pass, I have seen many losses. On this post I would like to share with you a few things that have happened in recent times and allow you to see through my experience both the difficulties and the growing that was done between myself and my family.
Most recently I have had a grandmother figure and a father figure pass within a month of each other. The grandmother figure was a death that we knew was coming but the father figure was not. The grandmother was passing because of cancer and the father committed suicide. Both deaths were very tragic but both deaths each had their own difference in heartache. While we loved each individual, the sadness of the fathers suicide has hit us very hard. Trying to stay strong for a family is sometimes very difficult. I was always wanting to scream but instead I held it in because I did not want to upset the other family members more than thy already were. My point is that by me holding it in, I was making myself more sick with the though of death. When I was able to voice my opinion I felt more clear and open about the idea of death. Frankly it scared the crap out of me and at times made me feel so trapped.
Life Grows on is a statement that I try to tell my loved ones, especially now that this has happened to our family. We must celebrate their life and not drown ourselves in the idea of their death. Everyone focuses on death in different ways, I am not saying that this will work for everyone. I found that it helped my loved ones to talk about the life of the loosed instead of being so angry that they are gone. Time can end at any moment, now we focus on the good in our family instead of the bad. When the time coms for another member of our family to leave, although it will be hard, it will be easier with focusing on the good instead of the bad.....
This website will help those who want to make their memories last: http://www.lifecelebration.com/

Celebrating Life

When I was trying to Google cemeteries in Lewiston, Idaho a search engine showed me 17 different cemeteries. I have never really thought about the many different types of cemeteries, such as a Jewish one. I am not saying that Jewish people do not deserve their own cemetery, I am just stating that I had no idea that there could be separate cemeteries for every person. I guess if you look back in the old days you could see that many people would just be buried on their own land so in a way, I guess there is a spot for everyone. I am getting off topic here; my initial search was to find information on how the residents of Lewiston, Idaho celebrate a life. I was raised that when a person passes away we do not have a funeral but a celebration for the life that this person had. To remember someone is to not forget the things they have done to celebrate is to show respect.

How are some ways that you and your family celebrate life of a loved one passed?

http://www.squidoo.com/CelebrateLife

Remember them as they were

A traditional funeral service with black suits and quiet church music and people gathered around a casket or urn, is okay for some, but it is not favorable for many people. Sometimes mourning a life just doesn't feel right. Life should be celebrated. It is a special day when people who loved a person gather together and celebrate their life, happily, and remember the person as they were...alive, and vibrant.

Each person is different - has different passions and different loves - so why should every funeral be the same? Look to their life for ideas on how best to celebrate it.

Photo by januszek