Life Grows On

For many people a death is a very sad thing. For others it is a celebration of life. For me, I have had many loved ones pass, I have seen many losses. On this post I would like to share with you a few things that have happened in recent times and allow you to see through my experience both the difficulties and the growing that was done between myself and my family.
Most recently I have had a grandmother figure and a father figure pass within a month of each other. The grandmother figure was a death that we knew was coming but the father figure was not. The grandmother was passing because of cancer and the father committed suicide. Both deaths were very tragic but both deaths each had their own difference in heartache. While we loved each individual, the sadness of the fathers suicide has hit us very hard. Trying to stay strong for a family is sometimes very difficult. I was always wanting to scream but instead I held it in because I did not want to upset the other family members more than thy already were. My point is that by me holding it in, I was making myself more sick with the though of death. When I was able to voice my opinion I felt more clear and open about the idea of death. Frankly it scared the crap out of me and at times made me feel so trapped.
Life Grows on is a statement that I try to tell my loved ones, especially now that this has happened to our family. We must celebrate their life and not drown ourselves in the idea of their death. Everyone focuses on death in different ways, I am not saying that this will work for everyone. I found that it helped my loved ones to talk about the life of the loosed instead of being so angry that they are gone. Time can end at any moment, now we focus on the good in our family instead of the bad. When the time coms for another member of our family to leave, although it will be hard, it will be easier with focusing on the good instead of the bad.....
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